Throwback Post: Good to Hear from You and Dinner With The Romano Duo

**THROWBACK POST**

May 28 2015

I’ve mentioned in the past that Lillian likes to email the authors of books she reads to let them know she liked the book. She’s also writing book recommendation posts on her blog and listing every book she reads!

She almost always gets a response, and I was moved by this latest response .. “Hi, Lillian,
So good to hear from you! Your website and posts are amazing! Good for you to read and write and to share your messages with the world.

I have a new book that just came out. It’s called BAYOU MAGIC. Before SUGAR I wrote NINTH WARD.

I love fairies and I love Salt Lake, too. I’ve been to Salt Lake twice.

Happy reading and thank you for contacting me.

Sincerely,
Jewell

Dr. Jewell Parker Rhodes
Founding Artistic Director, Virginia G. Piper Center for Creative Writing
Piper Endowed Chair
Professor of Creative Writing & American Literature
Affiliate, Center for Film, Media and Popular Culture”

May 28 2012:

We eat sooooooooo GOOD when those Romano peeps are here!!!! Yuuuuuuummmmmmmyyyyyyy!!!

 Romano Dinner May 28 2012

The Soothing Medicine of Mother Nature With a Million Questions

February 16 2020:

Quick drive to Washoe Lake. Thank you Mother Nature for the soothing medicine. My entire body and soul relaxed deeply in your loving embrace.

It was a struggle to get Lillian to leave the house. It was a struggle to get her out of the car. I pray nature helped her, at least a little bit. Deeply grateful this beautiful lake is only about a 15 minute drive away. 🙏♥️♥️♥️🙏

February 20 2020:

Lillian left yesterday afternoon to spend a couple of days with The Romano Duo. A much needed break for both of us. Hope you’re having fun, Lillian!! 🎉🎉🎉

Thomas and I are just back from an hour long walk. Incredibly beautiful and peaceful …. Well, except for the million questions from Thomas.

From the moment he could talk he’s asked one question after another after another. He’s still at it. The questions have gotten harder to answer though!

When he was about 4 or 5 years old, my mom asked me how on Earth I answered all of his questions. I told her I just answered the most recent one. He literally used to ask a string of questions all at once! What a heart warming memory to have popped up! 💜💜💜

Nearly Done with the Lillian Turned 18 Buried in Paperwork Palooza

February 19 2020:

Another one down, one more to go for the Lillian-turned-18-buried-in-paperwork-palooza. Power of Attorney for financial matters signed and notarized this afternoon. Last one is the Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care Decisions and End of Life Decisions. I need to discuss this one with Lillian more to make sure she understands it all. And, just a fun photo from happier times for us … Book signing for Lillian in June 2019 at Barnes & Noble.

Lillian and Camilla February 2020 Date Day

February 13 2020

Lillian and Camilla February 2020 Date Day

First stop was for fries to share, a butterfly cookie for Lillian, and giant vegan ginger cookie for me.

Second stop was a beautiful walk, with a final stop for a bit of window shopping. xoxo

I deeply appreciate all the love being sent Lillian’s (our) way. It may look like all is well in these photos. Yet, the struggle continues. Tomorrow will be one week out from me ruining her life (as she sees it), one week out from me making a decision in the best interest of her mental and physical safety. Things are definitely better than last Friday. Yet, it’s slow going.

Deeply proud of Thomas throughout this entire ordeal. A younger sibling who stepped into the role of an older sibling this past week. As much as I tried not to have the maddening aspect of this, along with the sadness of this situation leak out of my eyes and heart to him, it happened. And he comforted me. Thank you Thomas. I love you.

Feelings of Relief and Winning at Life

February 12 2020

Paperwork (loads of it) turned in for Lillian’s Age 18 Redetermination for SSI … Another one done! Only had to wait about 2 hours just to turn in paperwork (I wanted a date stamp on it as I’ve had things get “lost” before.) Wahooo!!! A beautiful photo to match the feeling of relief … Ahhhhh ….

Winning at life! Just took a really long, hot shower, turned the water off, and thought, “Um, I don’t think you actually used any soap, girl! You just stood there under the running water!” Winning = I realized it BEFORE I dried off and got out! Wahooo! 😜😂

Lillian and Camilla January 2020 Date Day

February 7 2020

Lillian and Camilla January 2020 Date Day … (a little late)

First stop was a wonderfully warm walk around the lake.

She and I have had an incredibly rough day. One of the toughest, roughest parenting days I think I’ve had to date. Please send us love and good juju that she eventually understands and accepts the decisions I’ve had to firmly help her make today. She is not happy with me and is deeply sad … xoxo

Second stop was for fries for us to share, with a lovely heart shaped cookie for Lillian, and yummy piece of dark chocolate with pink Himalayan salt for me.

Next was Barnes & Noble so as to use a gift card Lillian got for her graduation. Last was a quick stop for a few more minutes of window shopping.

Supported Decision Making Agreement and Room Rental Agreement Done

February 2 2020

It is FINALLY done!! I have just finished creating the Supported Decision Making Agreement for Lillian. She and I will sign it tomorrow in front of two witnesses … The Romano Duo … January has been, and February will be, all about paperwork, lots of paperwork …. Come March, we should be finished with all the big ones. Next up, Power of Attorney for Medical and Financial. Hallelujah!! 🎉🎉🎉

February 4 2020

Another one done!! Room Rental Agreement created. Nearly finished with the Power of Attorney documents also. Then it’s on to opening checking/savings accounts and an ABLE account. Feels so good to be getting these things done. 🥳💜

More Found Treasures

February 2 2020

Ahhhhh …. To have them be in this space where they actually like one another, that would be such a blessing. ❤️❤️❤️

Looking through thumb drives and found photos I had forgotten about – Actually thought they were lost as they were on a computer that died, and I no longer have it. So glad I still have these!

Throwback Post: Patience While Worrying with Relaxing and Cleaning and Laughing

**THROWBACK POST**

May 26 2015:

Reminders about life from conversations with Thomas …

Discussing patience with him. He does not like to be patient. As I’m putting him to bed, he says, “Like you need to be patient?” There are some changes going on and I’m getting all worked up about not knowing and not being able to control the result right now, not having an answer right now. I said, “So I should just stop worrying, stop trying to figure it out, just release it, and know that everything will work out as it should?” “Yep, something like that” -Thomas …

My shoulders and neck liked that. They can now move back to their proper location instead of wrapped around my ears. I just LOVE the way this all works. I think others needed to hear this tonight too. Love to you .. xoxo

May 26 2013:

We had a GREAT day relaxing at home with a little bit of cleaning and pulling weeds, lots of laughing and tons of reading! LOVE!!

Thomas and Lillian May 26 2013

Respite with a Lovely Dinner Followed by the Detention Center with Picard

January 22 2020

First respite in our new place. Had a lovely dinner of salad and mashed red potatoes, alongside a soft, mouthwatering piece of garlic naan.

Lillian left this afternoon to spend a few days with The Romano Duo. Yay for her! Yay for me! Yay for Thomas!

I’ve helped Thomas hang a few treasures on his wall. Now I’m off to have a long hot soak in an epsom salt bath. Ahhhhhhh … 🛀💙

January 23 2020

Day 2 of respite – Toured the Washoe County Detention Center, bought toilet paper and bread, answered questions for a book blogger who will blog about me and the latest book, went for a walk, hung more treasures on Thomas’s wall, and signed up for a free trial on CBS Access just so I could watch this.

I haven’t watched TV or a television series since 2008. The free trial is only for 7 days so I won’t be watching further episodes …. for now. I think I’ve had a very interesting (weird??) day!! Ha!

March 8, 2020 Update – After the free trial, I got notice that Amazon was offering a free trial also. Signed up for that and got to watch the second episode. Due to a mix up and error on Amazon’s part (charged me during the free trial – so gave me a free week or two), I got to watch more episodes. I’m committed until the end now! HA! I think there are 3 episodes left for the season. It’s been nostalgic and wonderful to watch Patrick Stewart in this role again, along with the guest appearances by other cast members.