November 12 2018:
“Sometimes I see people staring at me. I can see in their eyes that it’s a ‘you’re crazy’ look.” – Lillian …
I asked her if this bothers her? Yes, it does. …. (I told her they must be staring because she is so beautiful … 😍😃)
In the past when I’ve noticed others staring at Lillian, I ask them if I can help them and ask if they have any questions or if they are curious about Lillian. I also let them know it’s unsettling for another to be stared at by someone.
I will be kind. Yet, I am human and I am also Lillian’s mom and protector. I do have my limits. I told Lillian to let me know the next time it happens so that I can “help” the one staring.
People stare at me often too. I have no idea why. I have finally reached a point where I can mostly not be bothered by others actions and words. Yet, I also just don’t give a pluck. 😂🤣😜And, there again, maybe I have lettuce in my teeth or my clothes are on inside out … Hahaha!! xoxo
I posted this on facebook on November 12th and thought I’d share some of my response to friend’s comments ….
I’m sure most people don’t even realize they are doing it. Yet, it digs at one’s heart when one’s offspring is bothered by it enough to say something … more than once. I also told her that she could ask them why they are staring if she felt like it.
I have had a child ask me “What’s wrong with her?”, so since they were a child, I was able to explain it all to them. However, having an adult say that would most likely put me past my limit! I’m so crazy myself, and having a wild imagination, I would have them thinking they need to seek another planet on which to live … xoxo … And, then again, I may just start dancing. That would really freak em out.
Thomas asks me sometimes why I’m staring at him. I’m not. I’m just deep in thought and looking in his direction. I think for the most part this is what is happening. Except for the occasional times when one can sense from the energy of the other; that they are being judgmental or having negative thoughts.
I have to say that my split second initial response is a firm-smart-ass-full-of-profanity’s-tell-them- off comment. Yet, I know this gets society no where having this response. So, I tell them what I think, yet, in the kindest way possible.
I get lost in thought at times and I’m sure it seems as if I’m staring at someone when I’m actually just dazed and confused!! HA!
Thankfully, no one has been rude to her, except for when she used to be in public school. Fortunately, I don’t think it bothers her as much as it could. Perhaps it has helped a bit when she or Thomas tell me I’m weird or crazy and I respond with, “Thank you. Thank you for noticing!” HeeHeeHee!