Conversations with Thomas With a Live Performance

October 25 2021

Conversations with Thomas … Any of the songs in Polar Express can be sung to any of the music in the movie. They’ll obviously sound different, but it works.

I asked him if he read that somewhere or if he figured it out. He figured it out on his own.
He also says it’s one of the most underrated movies: Tom Hanks playing 5 key characters, the computer animation was superior for its time, the soundtrack is great, and the message can be applied to more than just Santa. As it’s about how our thinking changes as we get older.

I’m just now sure what I’d do if I didn’t have this amazing person in my life to have conversations with. I don’t post as much about them as I did when he was young. Yet, just about every day, we have such meaningful, deep (or sometimes just plain fun) conversations, blessing me more than I know what to do with sometimes.

October 31 2021

Thomas has been taking piano lessons since January 2021. Last night I was invited into his room for a performance to an audience of ONE … ME!

The song he played was less than a minute, and is from one of the online games that he loves. It warmed my heart, and brought much joy that he is finally comfortable enough to play for me. I’m so very proud of Thomas! xoxo

TLC Stands for Tender Loving Care


December 15 2015:

Thomas told me this morning that TLC stands for Tender Loving Care. He wanted to know if that’s why I chose TLC as our family team name. I explained that I didn’t do it on purpose and that I was just playing around with our initials.

He continued with T is for Tender and T is for Thomas and questioned that he is “tender”. Then L is for Loving and L is for Lillian and commented that this does NOT accurately describe Lillian (he is struggling with her meltdowns). Then C is for Care and C is for Camilla and commented that this accurately described me. He said, “You’re actually all 3 of them.” He certainly knows how to innocently “hand it back to me” in remembering to be kind to myself and to not judge myself. Which leads me to this ….

Gratitude for the Marvelous Marvs!! I read a Hay House newsletter yesterday that ended with a suggestion to write down the names of the most positive people in your life and the people who have changed your life for the better.

It was further suggested to take the time right now to write one of them a letter or dedicate a post to them on Facebook. Tell them how you feel. Don’t just say it, write it down. It has much more meaning when you take the time to put it in physical form and write it down.

I decided I’d like to do this for about a week or so. Perhaps you would like to do something similar! …. xoxoxo ….

Here’s #1:

Dear Thomas,

You have indeed changed my life …. from the moment you made your entrance! You came into my life equipped with a mirror that reflects qualities of my own nature; the pleasant and unpleasant and the kind and unkind. This has, indeed, changed my life for the better!

Our journey together so far has been an awesome adventure and I am eternally grateful that you are the “T” in our Team TLC; full of tenderness and always YOU!! I look forward with great joy to all of our “future” present moments!


Thomas at Vintage Lake with a facebook post on 12.15.15

Name Three Things You Wanted to BE When You Grew Up


November 1 2013:

More from the sweet little mind of Thomas ..

The other night Thomas asked me to name 3 things that I wanted to be when I grew up. I told him I could not remember 3, but I do remember that I wanted to be a dancer … a Solid Gold dancer (hahaha). I have LOVED dancing as far back as I can remember. Explained to him I don’t think I ever really knew what I wanted to do … and I still ponder about it!!

He said he wants to be a restaurant owner, an artist/painter and house builder. As he likes do do things solo, by himself so he can do things how he wants to do them without anyone telling him how to do it. Ummmm … Either OOPS, what have I done? or YAY, look what I’ve done! HA! …

And, I have to say, this morning Mr. Thomas’ behavior left me wondering if I had woken up in the wrong house!! What an interesting adventure this role of parent takes one on with all of the twists and turns and ups and downs and laughs and grumpiness … and learning, living, growing and LOVING!! xoxo