TLC Stands for Tender Loving Care


December 15 2015:

Thomas told me this morning that TLC stands for Tender Loving Care. He wanted to know if that’s why I chose TLC as our family team name. I explained that I didn’t do it on purpose and that I was just playing around with our initials.

He continued with T is for Tender and T is for Thomas and questioned that he is “tender”. Then L is for Loving and L is for Lillian and commented that this does NOT accurately describe Lillian (he is struggling with her meltdowns). Then C is for Care and C is for Camilla and commented that this accurately described me. He said, “You’re actually all 3 of them.” He certainly knows how to innocently “hand it back to me” in remembering to be kind to myself and to not judge myself. Which leads me to this ….

Gratitude for the Marvelous Marvs!! I read a Hay House newsletter yesterday that ended with a suggestion to write down the names of the most positive people in your life and the people who have changed your life for the better.

It was further suggested to take the time right now to write one of them a letter or dedicate a post to them on Facebook. Tell them how you feel. Don’t just say it, write it down. It has much more meaning when you take the time to put it in physical form and write it down.

I decided I’d like to do this for about a week or so. Perhaps you would like to do something similar! …. xoxoxo ….

Here’s #1:

Dear Thomas,

You have indeed changed my life …. from the moment you made your entrance! You came into my life equipped with a mirror that reflects qualities of my own nature; the pleasant and unpleasant and the kind and unkind. This has, indeed, changed my life for the better!

Our journey together so far has been an awesome adventure and I am eternally grateful that you are the “T” in our Team TLC; full of tenderness and always YOU!! I look forward with great joy to all of our “future” present moments!


Thomas at Vintage Lake with a facebook post on 12.15.15

They Were the Beginning of the Journey Within


November 7 2012:

I am not the same person I was before these two people came into my life. They have rocked my world, turned it upside down, inside out, shaken it up, (kinda makes me think of the hokey pokey song!!). They, each in their own way, have been a catalyst for my growth and learning.

She has taught me about acceptance of myself and others, compassion for others, letting go of judgmental thoughts, flexibility, and releasing expectations. He has taught me patience, not taking actions and comments of others personally, and simply keeps me on this learning journey with all his ups and downs. I am GRATEFUL beyond words for these two young people in my life, my 6 yr old son Thomas and 11 yr old daughter, Lillian.

They were the beginning of a journey that has definitely not been easy at times, a journey into facing fears, changing thought patterns for the better and continually learning so that I can be the best teacher to them that I can be and so that I model what I think is in their best interest. It’s been one heck of an adventure and I’m thankful to each of them for the change they began in me ….

Thomas and Lillian 11.7.12